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However I saw a web cartoon that rather irritated me. Usually these don't bug me but this was ridiculous.
In the web cartoon a man said "you look nice, what's your secret?" to a woman.
simple, innocent, earnest compliment.
and the woman responded "thank you I go to the gym once in a while."
in the next pane the same compliment was given and the response from the woman was "what a sexist jerk!"
in the post the woman calling the man a sexist was celebrated.
here's the thing, it wasn't a sexual compliment. I GIVE THAT COMPLIMENT TO MY GUY FRIENDS AS WELL.
Maybe it's cause I come from a fitness and martial arts background.
But here's basis of my point.
If ANYONE not just a woman or a man, can't take a simple compliment that has no evident sexual undertone, then it seems to me that the perception of the person receiving a compliment has been skewed by previous experiences.
I understand that portion because I was regularly bullied when I was younger (probably the major cause for me getting into fitness and martial arts)
That being said I sometimes have a hard time accepting compliments.
But I'm intelligent enough to recognize that it ISN'T THE OTHER PERSON'S FAULT.
They are just being nice. They aren't insinuating anything negative.
What also annoys the crap out of me, is that this is a growing trend.
It is becoming a real issue when being politically correct means you can't pay someone a compliment or say something nice to them..
I know a lot of people are abused in horrible ways. But please dear God please don't make some random person out to be the bully, when the root of the problem lay somewhere completely different.
So if you and I are ever in a situation where I say "hey you look great today."
Please take that to mean "hey you look great today" not "Please bend over".
I became very blunt at the end of this because hopefully you will understand the difference between those two statements.
Luckily the vast majority of my friends understand that I love them and all of you guys are really understanding and I am so blessed to know that I can say whatever I want to most of you and you know I don't view you as an object.
I would suggest if you ever actually run into a situation like this, just try and be understanding because that situation can be very confusing when you are just trying to be nice.